Be OK With Being by Yourself
BEING COMFORTABLE ALONE HELPS ME TO TRANSITION THROUGH DIFFICULT TIMES WITH EASE
MY DIRTY LITTLE SECRET?
I LOVE being by myself. I know that’s a little weird. It might be because I’m one of those introverted-extroverts.
But it might also be due to the fact that, because I was raised by a mom who was on welfare and worked two jobs, I was often left alone or with my brother. After I was emancipated, I attended three different high schools, and I had to be okay with being by myself, because I didn’t have a definitive clique to hang with. I frequently had to make new friends and rely exclusively on myself. This wasn’t exactly easy. I ended up attending a very small high school, in a very small town, my junior year, which made it especially difficult to be by myself. There wasn’t much of anything or anyone around.
Yet, the experience facilitated a wealth of personal growth and confidence in who I was and who I wanted to be.
Over the course of your life, friends, significant others, and even family members will come and go.
But if you are OK with yourself
—and being alone with yourself—you’ll feel more assured in those transitional and even lonelier moments. You’ll know you will make it through and eventually find the support network you’re meant to have.
Time to put it into practice.
Complete the activity below to see how you can practice making time for yourself.
The best way to edit the activity is to copy/paste the text into a new note on your phone.
YOUR TURN
PART 1
Thought-Starter Word Bank:
Lonely, scared, peaceful, quiet, nervous, solitude, gratitude, insecure, tired, alone, forlorn, deserted, unattached, calm, abandoned, desolate, happy, creative
My Word Bank:
When I'm by myself I feel (reference the word banks for words to get you started):
PART 2
Assessment:
How you feel when you're alone from the words you chose above:
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PART 3
Now what are you going to DO about it.
Joh Rohn said it best:
"Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going."
This month I will _________________________________________, in order to practice giving myself valuable alone time.
TODAY’S MANTRA
BEING COMFORTABLE ALONE HELPS ME TO TRANSITION THROUGH DIFFICULT TIMES WITH EASE
SHANNON’S TURN:
PART 1
Words:
Peaceful, grateful, questioning, scared (of the future), inspired, tired (physically), joyful, energized (creatively), unattached, calm
PART 2
Assessment:
Being alone isn't a luxury for me or even something I have to force, it's a necessity. I've realized that I have to be able to have quality time with myself at least once weekly. I notice a difference in my energy and attitude if I don't get this time. To me, being alone is my way of recharging my battery, or refilling my gas tank. It allows me to step back and assess the direction I'm heading also where my actions and priorities are focused. By giving myself this small gift, it allows for the 'best me' for the people I love in my life.
PART 3
This month I will begin the intro to mediation program I recently purchased, (the first week you start with just 5 minutes a day then build onto it from there,) in order to practice giving myself alone time.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Alone time helps with personal development and growth
If you are OK with yourself—and being alone with yourself—you’ll feel more assured during lonely, transitional moments.
Being alone builds confidence because it gives you the space to get comfortable with being exactly who you want to be
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